“Looks Like Gorman Is Going To Be Around For A While”

Yesterday we met with our oncologist, Mike Meshad. He had talked with Dr. Nabors, UAB neuro-oncologist, and had seen last week’s MRI. Usually he’s very friendly but we’ve never seen him so effusive and upbeat. He walked in the room and said, “I know you two are thrilled!” and then, “Looks like Gorman is going to be around for a while”. Apparently he had not anticipated a clear MRI. At two and one-half years out, this seems to be quite a milestone.

Last week when we met with Dr. Nabors, he suggested that Gorman begin receiving the Avastin infusion every three weeks, as opposed to two; get another MRI in three months and then go to every four weeks for the infusion and eventually stop it altogether. When I asked what medicine would come after that, he said, “There’s nothing after that. We don’t get too many patients who have made it this far”. I immediately told him it was because of prayers.

I have given much thought to that conversation with Dr. Nabors and my comment. I don’t know what to say about someone who has prayed for healing or for remission and didn’t get it. I don’t know what to say to my friend whose daughter died with a brain tumor. Certainly we all prayed for her. All I can say is that I have known for sure, throughout this cancer journey, that God has been with me every minute of every day. I am not a brave person; He has given me strength. There have been times, oh so many times, when I was scared to death and He comforted me and filled me with peace. And I know without a doubt if Gorman’s cancer returns, God will be with us and see us through it. Someone said the basic religious principle is that God isn’t there to take away our suffering or our pain but to fill it with His presence. He has done that for Gorman and me.

It’s so much fun sharing with all of you these positive comments from our doctors. We are so encouraged and it feels good to spread good news. But please keep us in your prayers.

Posted on July 24, 2014, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 15 Comments.

  1. What wonderful news and inspiration!!! So glad you shared this!!

  2. Ralph B.Vance, Sr., M.D.

    What great news! Puts a smile on our faces to see the grace of The Lord for you guys. Enjoy the news and keep the peace.
    Our love,
    The Vances of Oxford

  3. I so HOPE that you’ll have that glass of wine tonight AND many more to come! Love to you both, Beverly

  4. Oh Happy Day!! I am so moved and happy to hear the good news. You bring tears to my eyes!! Wish we could be there to give you both big hugs! Thank you for being such an inspiration to us and so many. Giving God thanks for your healing…giving God thanks for your presence in our lives!! We love you…..Cheryl & Jerry

  5. How uplifting!! God is so good! He has answered prayers and given you comfort, peace, and especially strength for this”journey”!! We are thrilled to hear this news! You are always in our prayers!! Jimmy & Karen

  6. ya’ll will always be in our prayers as we celebrate God’s presence in our lives. God’s presence in our friend’s lives is the best news we get and always a reason for a reason for celebration. thanks for sharing the journey Beverly. we always look forward to your posts. much love to you both.

  7. Such wonderful news for two faithful people!!

    Christine and Bobby

  8. Elaine Estefan

    That is just absolutely brilliant, as we say in England! I am convinced your faithful witness to our awesome God has touched many people and will continue to do so as we thank Him for this gift of life.

  9. What wonderful news! I told our prayer group last month that I would bring one of your posts for them to read so they could meet the folks for whom they have been praying. This is definitely the one I am going to bring. You both are such inspirations to me. God bless you both. Jim Z

  10. And oh how HAPPY these reports are to read!! I am so pleased for all of your precious family. You and Gorman have be an inspiration to all on this journey. Who knows when we may be called upon to walk this path, and whatna model you have given. Love you both, gayla

  11. Ralph B. Vance, Sr.,M.D.

    The Eta Chapter of Sigma Chi is having a multi-class reunion in Oxford on Sept. 20th this Fall. Think about a trip to Oxford. My home number is 662-234-5841.
    Ralph Vance

  12. Beverly and Gorman, We are absolutely thrilled by your news and humbled and honored to be a part of your “support team.” Thank you for sharing your journey with such beauty and transparency, showing us in your very lives the goodness and love of God.
    Much love, gloria and jim


  14. I was so excited to read the July 24 info. Although I have dropped off the map on writing comments, I have been “keeping up with Gorman.”

    Graham’s mom fell Spring of last year and had to have surgery for a compression back injury. It’s important to her to keep as much independence as possible so we pitch in so she can have it (she still lives at her house but no longer drives). I take off work on Friday’s just to run her around—hair appt, etc., but that leaves me doing a full week’s work in 4 days. And we were very involved immediately after the surgery for the 6 weeks she was in rehab and for the next month or so when she got home. So much so that I would get the most important things done at work (taxes, sending out customer invoices and P/R) but a lot of things just didn’t get done. I got three months behind on “the books” and it took about a year before I caught up.

    So instead of visiting with y’all each day to see if new info had been posted, I’d go in once a month and catch up. But y’all have stayed on the daily prayer list. In fact this is the prayer I pray: Father, glorify Yourself in them. Don’t let them miss the opportunity that You have given them today to mine from the depths of the deposit You have made in their souls. Conform them to the image of Your Son. And give to them always the strength to honor You with their words and life.

    And to answer your question about why God heals some but not others, I think Bob Utley (Baptist minister from Texas) had some good thoughts. He said, For the Jews, there was a connection between sin and sickness, righteousness and health (cf. Deuteronomy 27-28). However, Job and Psalm 73 clarify the issue as does John 9. The mystery is why some are healed and some are not. One’s faith cannot be the key ingredient, but God’s will. He also said, The Christian life is a daily walk in a fallen world. Bad things that happen to the unbelieving person often happen to the believing person. This does not mean that God does not care. It simply means that believers are caught in a fallen world system. Do not let the problems of life trick you into thinking God does not care. I think, that at one time or another, you’ve expressed these same thoughts.

    I’ve been reluctant to bring this up as it would have to be a hassle to do. But now that Gorman’s health is good, y’all might have the time to bother with it. A long time back, you wrote, Every day I pray and ask God to please give us at least a few more good years together. Sometimes I think I can almost hear God say to me, “I gave you today. Are you going to waste it on fear and worry?” Then my outlook improves. I have wondered if you could get those sentences copywrited (if that’s the right word) and then have them put on wall plaques, coffee mugs (with a very small font!), etc. Any proceeds you received would go the Cancer Society (more specifically, you might want it to go to the specific part of the Cancer Society that deals with Gorman’s type of cancer. Or a place like St. Jude’s).

    I don’t know how well this would fly. The only thing I do know is that it would be time consuming and you’d get tangled in red tape. But those sentences have meant a lot to me—not the first sentence, as I have not yet been faced with anything like that. But everyone has some problem or anxiety that may seem overwhelming at the time. Your first sentence has become a fill-in-the-blank for me. But the rest of the quote can fit anyone. However, the people who would be impacted the most are the ones who have relatives facing a life threating disease. I actually can’t think of a more comforting statement to read under those circumstances.

    Of course, you guys may wish to be hassle-free for a time and you certainly deserve the “time off.” So I’m just passing along an idea (which is real easy on my part) but would be greatly complicated (however, that would be on your part!). See how nicely this works out for me!!!

    But, in the meantime, we do indeed worship a wonderful God. The spiritual growth y’all have experienced during this time reminds me of the verse from Job. (The LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.) It is easier to rejoice when He gives. Not so easy when He takes away. But I think this verse has, over time, become a foundational part of your life.

  15. Beverly and Gorman, Randy Boyles says hello and he was excited to hear how well you are doing. keep up the good spirits and our prayers remain with you always!

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